The Be-Do-Have Paradigm Shift

Summer can be an especially frustrating time to be single. With all the passion and forward momentum in the air, (and couples walking on beaches and fireworks and poolside shenanigans) being single can feel stagnant and depressing!

But, I always tell my clients that to find The One you have to BE The One. You have to become You, 2.0.

Change can be tough, but it’s a must to really embody the kind of person you want to be with, especially if you keep attracting the wrong kind of people.

I’m sure you’ve heard that you have to be the change you want to see in the world. But, how many people actually practice that? You can’t continue doing the same things and expect different results. You HAVE to change. And to do things differently you need to have an attitude shift and change your perspective and approach to things. You need to start BEING an improved version of who you are.

You want a loving partner? Be love. You want positive experiences in your life? Be positive. You want abundance? Be abundant.

Have you ever noticed that most people live with a do-have-be perspective of life? They believe that if they “do” the right things, they will “have” what they desire, and only then will they “be” the person who deserves those things. That can be related to material success, but also in regard to relationships, health, and even emotional states that they wish to experience. If a person continues to operate on that belief system, I can guarantee you they will struggle 100% of the time, and fail the majority of the time.

Let me give you an example. When someone sets a goal like getting a specific kind of relationship, they usually set out to “do” what they believe will help them find that “perfect mate.” They go on dates, sign up for internet dating sites, and follow all the dating advice they can to “have” the relationship that they desire, believing that this specific relationship will allow them to “be” happy.

Many people take it beyond just being happy and attach a whole list of things that they will “be” when they finally have that perfect relationship. They will “be” successful, loving, loyal, open, compassionate, a good lover and a good partner.

That’s not how it works.

What would happen if you shifted the paradigm to be-do-have? By “being” happy, successful, loving, loyal, open, compassionate, a good lover and a good partner you will begin “doing” things differently, which will allow you to “have” things you never would have had if you were running the process as a do-have-be paradigm.

Act as if your goal has already been achieved! This one simple shift could change everything in your life!

The person you have been is not going to think, act, and react in a way that will get you to your goal. Change the process… Be the person who you would be if you already had achieved your goal, then you will do the things that a successful person would do, which will allow you to have exactly what you want.

Begin today to act, to live, to be the person you would be if you had already achieved the life and relationship of your dreams. How would you carry yourself? What would you focus on? How would you treat yourself? How would you treat other people? What would your relationships be like? How would you look at finances? What would you do to be healthy? Begin “Being The ONE” NOW!